Self-Resilience – The Key to Thriving Through Change
The only consistent things we can count on are death, taxes, and constant change! Darwin offers that
Despite our awareness that some amount of change is imperative to survive as a species, it is challenging to keep up with ongoing change. In our corporate world with a “do more with less” mentality, many people are burned out and running out of steam.
The 3 Phases of Change
One of the keys to thriving through change is to recognize that it has phases and to know which phase we are experiencing. Each phase has different emotions tied into it.
The first phase is Chaos or Disorientation. This is when change is first thrust upon us and we go into “fight or flight” mode. We experience a roller-coaster of emotions including fear, anger, denial, and for some, great excitement. We are not sure why we need to change or if we fit into the new model.
The second phase is Re-orientation. This is when the pieces of the change puzzle start to come together and we better understand what we can influence and if we can to make the change work for us.
The third phase is Integration. This is when we accept the change and sometimes find it hard to imagine that life existed beforehand. Since we are human, this cycle continues over and over again.
The 8 Facets of Self-Resilience
Knowing this model helps us connect to how we are feeling and helps us recognize that “this too shall pass.” It also provides us with an opportunity to focus on the concept of Self-Resilience. What can we do during each phase to thrive during change and “bounce back” in a healthy manner?
Although this three phase model is helpful, when it comes to developing greater levels of Self-Resilience, there are 8 Facets that are important to consider:
- Socially Connected / Social Support
- Flexible and Adaptable
- Self-Assurance / Self-Esteem
- Problem Solver
- Socially Competent
The good news is that once we are aware of these facets, we can “build muscles” in each one which provides us the opportunity to capitalize on the change and to learn how to nurture ourselves along the way. One example is considering the facet Socially Connected / Social Support. Many people resist the idea of asking for help when they are struggling with change. This in fact can make change extremely isolating and we don’t get the benefit of people’s resources, ideas, and connections. Case in point: Research shows that most jobs are filled via “word of mouth.” If we are resistant to reach out to our network when we are in transition, we miss out on important opportunities and have less of a likelihood to find a new job.
Accepting that all change involves movement through a series of phases is a helpful way to comes to terms with it. Examining the 8 Facets of Self-Resilience while in the midst of change helps us tactically manage the experience on a step-by-step basis.